Boost your confidence 10 ways

boost your confidence 10 ways

Think of a person who radiates self-assurance, who seems to have an innate gift to “own the room.” 

They draw every eye with their poise and confidence, command attention while speaking, and have a personal magnetism that inspires and engages.  How do they do it? Practice… and lots of it. I say this from personal experience.

After a decade of working in TV news—emceeing large-scale events, interviewing high profile news makers and talking my way through a daily 2 1/2 hour morning show—I sometimes scratch my head. How did a girl, who was once too afraid to call and order a pizza, become a professional journalist and confident communicator?

Here’s the secret… Confidence is not a gift, it’s a skill we must develop.


Floral Shirt | Pleated Skirt (my color sold out, but it’s available in orange & pink) | Shoes (similar) | Aviators

Sure, it may come more naturally to some. But with strategy and preparation, ANYONE can boost their confidence. Better yet, you can project confidence long before you feel it.

Ever hear the saying “fake it till you make it?” That certainly holds true here.

I like to think I am now very confident in manner and in dress. Part of that has been reaching a point where I truly know myself, my belief structure, what I care about and who I want to be. I understand my worth and when to how to hold my ground. The urge to “blend in” or copy—gone completely. I’ll blaze my own trail. However, I am STILL a work in progress. As with any skill, I push myself regularly to exercise boldness and to reach outside my comfort zone.

Do you want to feel more confident in business and personal settings, while networking, or in your appearance?

boosting your confidence

My orange dress unfortunately sold out before I could share it, but I’ve linked some of my other bold color, boss lady favorites below! 

Here are 10 things that help:

  1. Be prepared: Have an upcoming presentation, job interview, etc? Do your homework. Anticipate possible questions, topics and discussion. When a notable guest was coming to my morning show, I made sure to read up on them and their work. Knowledge is power.
  2. Watch your posture: Chin up, shoulders back, spine straight. This is simple, but vital! Have you ever seen a ballerina walk? This is what you’re after. Body language plays a huge role in perception. Ask a friend to observe you or record yourself in a mock scenario. I was able to identify and correct lots of bad posture habits by watching myself anchoring and reporting.
  3. Silence your inner critic: We are much harder on ourselves than others. Ignore that doubting inner voice. Focus instead on what friends and supporters say.
  4. Start more conversations: Find yourself buried in your phone while waiting in the line at the coffee shop or grocery store? Put it down and chat up a stranger. By practicing casual conversations in low-pressure settings, you will be more prepared for important networking interactions.
  5. Dress to impress: I firmly believe clothing that fits well and flatters can dramatically boost confidence. Have a dress in your closet that instantly makes you smile? Use it! When you feel good about the way you look, your self-assurance radiates. I talk about doing this AFFORDABLY here.
  6. Set yourself up to win: Goal setting is a journey. Make sure you are setting small achievable goals, in addition to larger ones. Every time we reach a milestone or goal, our confidence gets a boost.
  7. Remember we ALL have insecurities: This is especially true for the people who don’t seem to have them. They’re just better at disguising their fears. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself—T. Harv Eker
  8. Help someone:  Find a practical way to help someone else and—without realizing it—you boost your own self-confidence. While mentoring, teaching or coaching, we forget about our own shortcomings and instead make a difference for someone else.
  9. Smile: Even when you don’t feel like it. Exercising those muscles makes you more approachable and in turn you will feel better about yourself.
  10. Do one thing that scares you each week: This one is not easy. But, then again, nothing truly worthwhile is. By constantly challenging ourselves, we are building our confidence based on new knowledge and experience.

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  1. GiGi Eats | 22nd Mar 18

    I know I rock – and I wear that on my face and walk like I am the shit – LOL! That being said, I am not a cocky bitch by any means, but I am also not insecure what so ever! 😉
    PS: I love those confident outfits you picked!! All POWER colors!

    • laveremis | 22nd Mar 18

      I love hearing that– and wish ALL women would feel that way. I do now, but it took some time before I recognized it. Go get em’ girl!

  2. Elizabeth O | 22nd Mar 18

    I love the term ‘fake it til you make it’ I try and think about that whenever I have a confidence wobble, it certainly helps!

    • laveremis | 22nd Mar 18

      Yes– it’s all about the attitude, right? 🙂

  3. Amy-Lynn Vautour | 23rd Mar 18

    Some of this is SO the opposite of how I live my life. I wear PJs most days, even out in the stores lol… for me comfort reigns supreme and *expletive deleted* the people who judge me for it – I have chronic health issues and I’m rarely comfortable in anything other than summer dresses, pjs, and stretch leggings that make me look like tweedle dee if i don’t cover my stomach with a long shirt but whatever. for me, confidence comes from inside. from knowing i’m a good person and a hard worker.

    I like the challenging yourself bit and doing things for others and DEFINITELY silencing that inner critic!

    • laveremis | 23rd Mar 18

      I agree real confidence DOES come from the inside; it’s about truly knowing yourself and what works for you and your lifestyle. It sounds like you’ve found your confident self—and if that confident self lives in PJs—that’s awesome. That’s why this topic is so tricky, the journey to confidence is different for each of us.

  4. Jennifer | 23rd Mar 18

    Ug. I am SO bad at the posture thing. Also – true question here – can I ask what plugin you use for the slider at the bottom? I’m looking for one, and I really like yours! 🙂

    • laveremis | 24th Mar 18

      Hi Jennifer, are you referring to the slider showcasing the outfits? If so, it’s actually not a plugin, it’s a widget I created with ShopStyle. It’s pretty easy to do–and this is coming from a very non-technical girl. I don’t use many plugins on my sight, because the theme is great and very customizable. I used the Daisy theme. If I’m not talking about the “slider” you meant, please let me know.

  5. Erin | 4th Apr 18

    I keep reading your tip list over and over… THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING!!!

    • laveremis | 8th Apr 18

      So happy to help! I’m still working to remember all of these myself.

  6. Miljana | 29th Aug 18

    Wow, like you knew I needed this!

    • laveremis | 31st Aug 18

      Hi Miljana, so glad to help!

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